Like Pamela, I grew up hand writing letters, notes, cards, reports, etc. And like her, I developed arthritis and tremors in my 60s. I bought a typewriter 2 years ago, because I wanted to send messages which could be held in the recepient’s hand. The typewriter keys are too “stiff” for me to use! I’ve begun printing by hand. To communicate with my generation of folks, I use paper and pen. For my children’s generation, I use email. For the grandchildren, it’s texting. Texting for me is limited to a couple short sentences, as I still use a flip phone. I do use a landline occasionally, because my son thought it an improvement over the flip phone. My daughter and I use cell phones. My husband and I communicate with difficulty, which is by now, an old habit. My version is he lectures and sermonizes, I ask questions of him which only need a one word answer. It’s not like it used to be with any of the above. My son is the only relative I have who still sends handwritten thank you notes. He must have had a wonderful mother. LOL…..
It Depends … by Mary Smith
May 7, 2019 by ElderChicks
I think he had a great mother, too! This says so much.
Sorry to hear about this kind of communication with your husband. I fly solo and I quite love it, but as we age our sensitivity grows, I feel, and we become more attuned to just how clueless most people are!
Thank you, for the reply/comment. You have no idea how comforting it is to know someone understands. All communication years ago was difficult enough. Now he has early dementia. His nature has mellowed, but he uses pointing to objects due to forgetting the name of them. His inability to tell me what he might have an opinion on, leaves 95% of decision making to me. Flying solo sounds very appealing to me!! Thank you, again.