Yes, thanks for opening up this discussion. I was struck by the infantilizing comment. I am beginning to see that emerge. So strange to me. I just had a conversation with my personal banker, a lovely young talented woman, who kept a “aren’t you the sweetest little thing” attitude about me when she talked. It didn’t get in the way of the content, she gave me as much as I needed. But it struck a cord that I often hear service people “talk down” to us. I see it as a challenge actually. Rather than get all offended, I can see that I rise to the challenge by staying more present, being authentic and almost always am rewarded with a connection with the other person that is better as a result. Thanks for the topic. I really like airing my views here.
Rising to the Challenge by Sandra Mauck
February 1, 2012 by ElderChicks
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Sandra, you’ve identified a behavior I’ve definitely been aware of and described a wonderful response I’m going to keep in mind! Thanks for helping me get past that initial pang of annoyance or resentment when I feel I’m being patronized.
Sandra, recently I have been having vision problems. The retina specialist I saw spent all of my visit talking to my husband regarding my vision problem. I then stayed present, composed,not angry and said, “I am the patient. Please talk to me and direct your attention to me,” to which he did. I was pleased with myself and my attitude. Mission accomplished. No more ignoring or patronizing.